Breaking news: Frugality is not a competition

Breaking news: Frugality is not a competition

You could be forgiven for thinking extreme frugality was going to be a sport in last year’s winter Olympics. There are lots of degrees of frugality, and it takes a lot to win. Except its not a competition.

I’d write about frugality more- I’m pro living below your means- except its a difficult subject to write about without appearing to be a sanctimonious know-it-all. I also know that being frugal is easier if:

  1. You have enough money for it to be a lifestyle choice, or
  2. You can see a beacon of light at the end of your tunnel

A fine line

I read the most perfect advice on a money forum recently; “There’s a fine line between being frugal and a joyless tightarse”. And that line will be different for everyone.

What seems frugal to you might seem spendy to someone else.

What someone considers a simple pleasure might be a feat of endurance for someone else.

I could profess my frugal prowess by boasting that I’ve never spent money on avocado toast. It’s not exactly relevant, as someone who doesn’t particularly like avocado. Or I could boast about making coffee from home. But living in a town that got it’s first proper coffee shop around 3 years ago, I’ve never had the daily latte habit to give up.

Ask me about holidays, and I’ll look sheepish though. Christmas too, whilst controlled, still isn’t what many would deem frugal. I did once make homemade pickled onions as a Christmas gift, but the cost of kilner jars resulted in it being rather pricey. It wasn’t very joyful either.

Choose your frugal comfort level

If you can enjoy a cup of tea with a thrice used tea bag, that’s great and you needn’t feel like you have to do otherwise But if those posh tea pigs tea bags bring you joy every morning, you don’t have to give them up in the bid to become the Emperor or Emperoress of Frugaltonia. Use your money to enjoy your morning cuppa.

Frugal articles are a great source of new ideas, and just because something doesn’t appeal right now, that’s not to say it never will.

I’m pretty sure (or would at least like to think) that most people who share frugal ideas do so to inspire rather than show off, so try to take those ideas that appeal and leave those that don’t. Every now and then I go too frugal, make myself feel stressed and miserable, and bounce back by spending money on a takeaway. I’ll probably do that dozens more times, but it doesn’t matter too much.

We have one life; it shouldn’t be spent going for a frugal gold (second hand) medal if doing so makes you miserable. What matters is reaching a balance that’s right for me and recognising when something isn’t for me. How do you deal with the frugality competition?

2 thoughts on “Breaking news: Frugality is not a competition

  1. Well said. The FIRE community would revoke my membership is they saw my Christmas bill. But I also spend zero on alcohol. It works for my family and that’s all that matters.

    1. Thanks Ty! Alcohol is a good example of something I was in the camp of definitely NOT cutting down (not a lager lout, but enjoy a nice wine of a weekend) but over time I actually have. Not quite at zero but not far off. It’s definitely made me feel healthier too… And more able to win at board games!

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