Remembrance, why I love Canada, and attitudes towards money

Remembrance, why I love Canada, and attitudes towards money

On the 11th hour, or the 11th Day, or the 11th Month, we pause for a minute’s silence to remember the fallen and the sacrifice made for us.


A minute filled with such poignancy that a painful lump swells in the back of my throat and I fight to push it down again. Thoughts have to be pushed away… after all, did grandad not fight so that I might keep my stiff upper lip?! I do most of my remembering before the clock strikes 11 and after the minute’s silence has passed. In truth, I spend a long time thinking about and imagining the horror of the great war, and the wars since.

I can’t share too much about my grandad’s story. He passed away when I was young, and even if he hadn’t, he never shared anything with my dad about the horror he’d endured (stiff upper lip and all that).

I know that he did suffer a life threatening injury. In fact, shrapnel was still embedded under his skin when he died.

A Canadian soldier saved my grandad’s life on the battlefield. I don’t have the heroic specifics (see above re stiff upper lip). But I know my grandad wouldn’t have survived without the help of that unknown Canadian comrade. And so, a strong impression was made on me as a child. That Canada and Canadians are good.

Grandparents and parents have such an incredibly strong influence over their children’s attitudes as adults. I love Canada, because my family does, because my grandad otherwise would not have lived.

Here’s something else about my family that made a big impression on me: my family are debt averse. Of course, there are times when debt is necessary. On the whole though, I am debt averse and do what I can to avoid it. An aversion that translates to being good with money. Maybe that sounds boring. But you know what they say. You only live once. And I wouldn’t want that to be a life mounted in debt.

Our grandfathers didn’t fight for our freedom, so that we might imprison ourselves in debt.

I’d normally pose a question here, but I’ll just invite your thoughts. It could be about remembrance, it could be about family attitudes, it could be about money, or it could be how much more I would love Canada once I’ve actually been there!

Thanks for stopping by!

12 thoughts on “Remembrance, why I love Canada, and attitudes towards money

  1. My grandfather fought in the Korean War and he too didn’t talk about his experiences. He said he floated around in the middle of the ocean and wouldn’t talk anymore about it. I have a feeling more went on that he chose not to share. Funny how that generation responded to war and the current generation puts everything on social media.

    1. We’re so quick to complain nowadays and we do it so publicly. One of the few ways the present day is not better than days gone by.

  2. When is debt necessary? Do you have a mortgage or any credit cards? What you mean by debt averse? Sorry, I haven’t ever heard of that phrase. I don’t think anyone actually LIKES debt. I know I don’t! But I’m not good at budgeting either. cheers, kid can doodle #KCACOLS

    1. I think the answers to those questions can be different for different people. But generally, I’d say that mortgage debt is necessary for most people who want to but a house. There’s an argument to say its necessary to buy a used car, but it depends where you live (eg, if you live in London, the public transport is so good and traffic so bad that it’s probably not necessary. If your oven breaks and you don’t have an emergency fund, that might be necessary too. I have credit cards but pay them off in full each month. Life is expensive enough without paying interest on top too!

      I made ‘debt averse’ up, so no wonder you’ve not heard of it! But basically, I do what I can to avoid it. I save up first and buy it later. Or sometimes don’t buy it at all. For example, I don’t have a dishwasher, we don’t have sky tv, I have a cheap mobile on a cheap contract, etc.

      No one becomes an expert at budgetting overnight. It takes a little time and effort, trial and error, but it is worth it in my opinion!

    1. When you’re younger and see people have stuff you don’t have, it can feel like the worst thing in the world. But when you grow up with their attitudes, it does just become you 🙂

  3. I think debt in this day and age is inevitable. (Mortgage etc) I what’s important is to be responsible and make sure you are able to make the repayments.

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back again on Sunday x

  4. I think that debt can be a useful tool to get started but it is optional to stay in debt. Maybe you need a loan for your first car, but you can save for your next one. Maybe you need a mortgage for your first home, but you can pay it off.

    1. Debt does have it’s place, but having a plan (or at least the will) to pay it off sooner rather than later makes it easier to have control of your life 🙂

  5. Love your description of debt. You are so right and it too me a long time to get that perspective.

    There are occasional appropriate uses of debt – but buying fancy stuff isn’t one of them.

    There is a reason a bond is called .. a bond.

    Great write up – thanks for sharing.

    1. Thanks for reading 🙂

      We make the mistake of thinking credit empowers us, when it does the opposite. It’s easy to not realise this until the damage is done.

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