A lot of people claim that they don’t care what others think of them. I’ll hold my hand up and say I’m one of them. The truth is, most people do care what others think… to some extent, at least.
Do I care what other people think of me?
I’m not bothered about people thinking I’m cool. I fully expect a lot of people think I’m kinda boring. And a little odd. I’m happy for them to think that.
It’s only in the last few years that I’ve realised that’s how I want people to think of me. If I thought people considered me one of the crowd, normal, or cool, I’d be a bit miffed. I wouldn’t change myself, but I’d wish they’d see me differently. So, clearly, it means I do care what people think.
It was my husband that made me realise that I do actually care what people think. He knows me very well. I guess he should do, but I guess one of the things I’ve considered myself is a closed book. I’ve enjoyed being unpredictable, but as I’m ‘predictably unpredictable’, he always knows how I’ll react! It’s infuriating.
How about you- do you care what people think?
Are you someone who cares what people think? Do you think that you don’t care, when deep down there is a way you want (or don’t want) to be percieved? Or do you really not give a damn?
If you don’t care what people think, consider how true that is…. and especially if unconscious concerns lead you to spend money in the way that you do!
Here’s an example. Someone once said they really wanted to buy their boyfriend a personalised number plate but they hadn’t got any money.
To me, it’s a baffling thing to want to buy if you have no money. It literally just sits on your car. It doesn’t make the journey more efficient, or the ride any more comfortable.
Is there any other purpose than to give a certain image? And if you want to give a certain image, does it not suggest that you do care what other people think? I can see the argument for buying one as a symbol for yourself that “you’ve made it”, but if you barely have the money to buy it in the first place, your definition for making it is different to mine!
On reflection, another time springs to mind when a friend ruthlessly ribbed me for my old samsung mobile. Those were the days when a phone would literally last 5 years. When I got a promotion, she tormented me relentlessly about sitting in my big posh office (I didn’t have a big posh office) in my power suit (I didn’t have a power suit either) with my ‘clam’ phone.
Obviously, I liked that image of being slightly odd, of not doing what everyone else did, because that’s what made me hang on to that phone until the 3 key stopped working!
It seems normal to care what people think, to some extent. Society needs that so we don’t go round looting, and killing each other.
If you think you don’t care what people think, it can become a blindspot that could keep you inadvertently spending money to create a certain image, without you even realising!
Make sure you know exactly your motivation for buying something, and make an active decision about whether you want to make a purchase. You mind just find yourself effortlessly saving money!
Do you care what other people think? And does what people think affect the way you spend? Let me know in the comments!